Blog About Dating

Dating can be your best friend.

…OR your worst enemy.

A lot of time, a man can feel like a slave to his natural need to procreate.

Then there’s that common phrase, “He thinks with his… You know.”

Well it is hard NOT think that way if you are physically unsatisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We are doers, and need to achieve things and affect the world in a positive way.

Balancing the two - my urges and achieving my goals is one of the biggest challenges I’ve personally faced.

When you are single, dating can take a lot of time. If you don’t know what you’re doing, women will suck away at your time.

Before you know it, you are spending hours in the park, feeding the birds and cuddling…now there’s nothing wrong with spending quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU DON’T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, but so do women.

In fact, it’s the nature of a woman to take up the man’s time - it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. That way if the woman gets pregnant there’s a less chance of you leaving (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).

Managing your time with women can get really tricky. You see, most guys WANT to give women their time. Men are by nature the “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.

There is also a urges in men that completely take over your thoughts.

Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most time of your life.

Now take a minute to ask yourself about this, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”

Now I know it wasn’t about “money,” or “control over my life,” or “lots of my free time.”

It was probably something like “relaxation, excitement, feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”

There are two ways that I think why men have problems with how they use their time with women.

First, they overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much time or money on a woman because they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren’t that valuable.

Second, men think that they are “getting” something valuable when a girl spends time with them.

Society brainwashes men to believe that women are a prize to claim, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.

That’s so untrue!

Women are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE! The best thing is see a women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less.

Now getting out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women is really hard.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you’ve been doing them for years.

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