Blog About Dating

Today’s world looks like a bad one for relationships. It seems like everywhere you look, couples that were once so close and happy are fragmenting and going their separate ways. Every couple has their own reasons for breaking up, but there are 6 in particular that usually have something to do with it, and you can help to keep your relationship from going the way of theirs by taking these 6 problems into consideration.

1) Cheating. It’s, in my opinion, the worst possible thing somebody in a relationship can do. It doesn’t just break your partner’s heart, it breaks the trust they had in you as well…and even if you can mend your partner’s heart and save your relationship, chances are you’ll never have that trust again. Do everybody a favor and keep your pants on…don’t cheat, one night of fun could mean two lifetimes of heartache.

2) I know it sounds a little corny, but everybody has feelings and emotions, and when they’re not cared for properly it can really make that person feel unappreciated and like his/her partner doesn’t care. Even if the person knows in his/her mind that’s not true, it can still feel that way…and that can lead to some serious relationship problems. Don’t let your lover feel that way, always make sure that he/she feels as loved as he/she is.

3) I don’t think anyone in today’s world is naive enough to think that fights are never going to happen, but although they may not be the end of the world if they’re handled properly they can cause some real troubles if they’re not dealt with as they should be. If you fly off the handle and really cause trouble during fights, they’re going to destroy your relationship instead of helping it. Use fights as constructive devices to find out how your partner feels about things and express your own feelings, not as a way to be as hurtful as possible.

4) I know it’s hilarious in the movies to see a comedy actor’s face go white with fear when he sees that the number on his cell phone’s Caller ID is his control-freak wife, but in the real world an overbearing partner can really add a lot of stress to a relationship and strain the “victim” to the limits. As much as your partner may love you, you don’t want him to get fed up with constant harassment or end up dreading talking to you. Without trust, a relationship will fail…so let go of the reins a bit before the poor person starts running for his/her life!

5) A lot of relationships these days end because one or both people just gets bored from a lack of spontanaeity and fun. This is really sad to me, because people who are so in love should never get bored of the object of that affection. If a relationship isn’t kept alive with good clean fun and being together isn’t the joy it should be, there’s something wrong. No relationship should just “peter out” because you two don’t do anything together anymore…even if you’re both busy, you should be able to find time to spend with the one you love.

6) There’s not a person in the world who doesn’t have one single annoying habit, and for the most part that’s not a problem…but when something you do really grates on your partner’s nerves, try not to do it so much or if possible not at all. Irritating quirks like biting your fingernails or drumming on the table aren’t usually showstoppers, but things that really irritate your partner cause unnecessary tension that could make other little everyday problems stack up and amount to a real situation. Try to consider your partner’s feelings, and work on your bad habits.

There are a lot of things that can contribute to the “demise” of a relationship, and these are really just a few of them…but by thinking this way you should have a good shot at identifying any of the things that are really hurting your relationship…and if you’re in the middle of a breakup, then addressing problems like these could really help your chances of getting through it with your partner still by your side!

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