Swingers 101 - Things a Beginner Must Know
The swinging lifestyle has been around for a very long time. Maybe you and your honey have wanted to experiment but just don’t know how to get started. I mean, it’s not the sort of thing you typically hear when you’re out on the town; “Hey, I’m Jack, she’s Patty, do you know where we can find some swingers?”
So how does a couple go about getting involved in “the lifestyle”?
I’m assuming at this point that you’re both on board with the idea, because if not, it won’t work out as well as you may have hoped. It’s not a good idea to begin swinging to try to ‘fix’ marriage problems. Most successful swinging couples have a strong, solid marriage. So be sure you’re both very honest about your reasons for wanting to join the swinging community.
I should also point out that there’s no room for jealousy among swingers. You can’t have a problem with someone approaching your mate, after all, that’s why you’re there, right? If the two of you have discussed this, are in touch with each other’s feelings and have mutually agreed to go forward with your plans, jealousy really shouldn’t even be an issue.
Hit the ‘Net
Novice swingers today have the huge advantage of the Internet at their fingertips; finding a local swingers party, adult dating site, club or group is just a couple of clicks away. Do a search on any topic, any fetish or fantasy and you’ll find exactly what you’re looking for.
Do Your Homework
When you’ve chosen a club, take the time to call before you go. Ask questions, find out the dress code and other rules so you know what to expect when you get there. Clubs are all different and they each have their own set of rules.
Ease Into It
Some clubs are ‘no-pressure’; you’re free to do as much or as little as you choose. If it’s your first time inside, you may find it easier to just watch the activities, at least for a while. You can join in later if you feel like it.
No Pressure
It’s important to know that you should never feel as though you’re being pressured into doing something that makes you uncomfortable. This should be a fun, exciting experience and you don’t want it marred by an unpleasant encounter.
Get Friendly
Most swingers you’ll meet are friendly, regular folks, and are happy to help newcomers. Clubs will also have employees on hand to answer any questions you may have. Visit the club until you feel comfortable about the idea of moving to a different location or a smaller group. But even before that happens, you can be forming friendships and getting familiar with other couples.
If it’s not “on”, it’s not on!
When you decide to join the swinging community, you must be ready to discuss protection in all sexual encounters. No, it’s not very mood-setting, but it’s something that must be addressed. If you think you can’t talk to someone about sexual protection, you need to seriously consider whether you’re ready to start swinging.
If you’ll take your time and have an open mind about new experiences, you may discover that being a ‘couple of swingers’ injects new energy and excitement into your marriage.
Aelicia Anderson has been a member of the adult dating community since 1997. She now writes a weekly dating advice column for FlingFinder.com.au
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