You know that feeling you get after you get a cute girl’s number? You start imagining what the two of you will look like together. You know your boys would be proud. You text her a few days later in hopes of setting up a date but you get no response. Now you’re confused. You realize you’re gonna look like an asshat when your homies ask you, “what happened with that girl you met?” You cant help but think “why did she even give me her number if she wasn’t interested? Why couldn’t she just tell me ‘no’?” The answer is simple: it’s all our fault.
Let me paint you a picture.
A beautiful young woman is at the club dancing with her beautiful young women friends. It’s Friday night and they just wanna go out and do beautiful young women things. Dave is out with his boys and he happens to see this beautiful young woman. Dave is tall, dark and handsome so he figures he’ll approach the beautiful young woman. (Are you tired of me saying beautiful young woman yet?) She rejects him and Dave responds with an emphatic “You’re ugly anyway!”
Is it easier to see now why women can’t simply say no to guys anymore?
Every woman you know has been confronted with the stereotypical insecure, overconfident guy who thinks they can get women just from looks or materialism. These guys get butthurt when a woman denies them. How many times have you heard a guy say “What, am I not good enough for you? Am I not good looking enough for you? You’re a stuck up bitch!” No dude, she’s just not interested.
A woman does not choose who she’s attracted to; it’s not something she can turn on. So when a woman is faced with a guy she has no interest in, she needs a way to let him down easy. She can tell him “I have a boyfriend.” That may work, but he might think he’s a player and say “That’s fine, you can’t have friends?” Women have now gotten to the point where the easiest way to say “no” is to actually say “yes”. Ironic, I know, but it makes perfect sense. It’s much easier for a woman to give a guy her number and ignore him later than to go back and forth with a crybaby.
So what can you do about it? Nothing. You simply move on and hope to have better luck next time. Don’t text her 2 and 3 times. Don’t call her names and become bitter towards women. If she is replying to you but she’s too busy every time you ask her out, take a hint. Understand that no matter how good looking or well off you may be, every women you’re into won’t be into you. Chalk it up to experience, and get out and be somebody!
I’ve always wanted to say that.