You have the worst luck when it comes to dating. Why does it seem like you always attract the woman you don’t want but the one you do want wouldn’t even let her dog kiss you? A common reason for this is that you are not treating all women the same. Although there is no solution to attract ANY woman you want, by treating all women the same you have a better chance of evening that ratio.
If you’re in the dating world, it’s imperative to know that there are social skills involved in the process. Just like with any other skill, your dating/social skills need to be consciously practiced. The more time you put in, the better you’ll get and the more results you’ll see. First, let’s try and figure out why you seem to always get attention from the woman you’re not interested in.
You’re more aloof when you’re interacting with women you have no romantic interest in. You’re less cautious about your choice of words, you’re more relaxed, and you’re just more comfortable with being yourself. You’re being genuine. You have nothing to prove to a woman you have no interest in and this ironically could lead to her liking you even more.
Why is that?
People are attracted to independence and sincerity. The fact that you’re comfortable and relaxed in your own skin puts people at ease; you give off a positive vibe which attracts people to you. Your nonchalance with the woman you’re uninterested in tells her, “I don’t take myself too seriously and honestly, I’d be fine with or without you in my life.” It’s odd, but people want what they can’t have and your independence is what draws you to her. Well how will I get to practice my dating/social skills if I’m constantly around women I’m not interested in? Good question.
You’ll never know when you’ll meet the love of your life, but you want to be prepared when you do. If you’re not comfortable having fun, normal conversations with any woman, you’ll likely freeze up when you meet the one who takes your breath away. When interacting with a beautiful woman it’s important to remember not to let her beauty intimidate you. If butterflies are in your stomach, don’t ignore them but embrace them. This woman ignites passion within you and the last thing you want to do is creep her out because you’re a bumbling idiot. Take a deep breath, forget about the fact that she’s drop dead gorgeous and carry on your interaction with the same self confidence you would with the average Jane.
Here’s an interesting thought: beautiful women don’t get approached as often as you think. Even when they are, most of the guys who approach them have no idea what they’re doing or they’re putting up a front. Women see straight through this. Didn’t I say that people are attracted to sincerity? Women (most of them anyway) don’t necessarily want to be idolized, they want a partner–someone who isn’t glorifying their beauty. They want an equal. When you interact with them as if they were just a regular girl, you communicate confidence. You’re communicating to her, “I know I’m good enough for you.”
Treating the woman you like the same as the woman you don’t like helps you build confidence and provides opportunity for you to work on your “game”. Remain aloof and true to yourself at all times and you’ll be surprised at the results you get. Remember, the most gorgeous women are only human, they die too. Appreciate her beauty, let that energy inside of you rejuvenate and inspire you but don’t let it consume you.