The average guy has a hard enough time meeting and dating a new woman. In today’s dating world where ghosting is more common than a cold, he’s lucky if he can get to her front door. If things go well, he’ll get a second date. If he keeps things interesting and fun, he’ll start seeing her consistently. Then he gets to the point where he knows he likes this girl so he asks something along the lines of “would you like to be my girlfriend?” When she responds in an undesired manner, he’s left with his dick in his hands wondering where he went wrong.
The problem with this is that the relationship proposal is out of context. Poisoned by romantic comedies and tv shows, we guys have fallen into the trap of believing that we must wine and dine a woman for a few dates then lock her down into a relationship. Sure, this actually does work some of the time, but nowadays it’s key to remember that the power has somewhat shifted. In today’s feminist society, women often don’t even want to be locked down in a relationship. At least not so soon anyway. They want to explore their options and have fun before relinquishing their freedom as a dating free agent. Asking a girl for a relationship too soon makes her feel trapped.
I’ve said it a few times before, girls just want to have fun! They enjoy the thrill of a new romance just as much as we do. Part of the fun of a new fling is the mystery. A woman is intrigued by the mysterious guy she just can’t seem to get enough of. She likes where things are going, and she likes getting to know him more and more over time. So when we bring up the relationship conversation, it sucks the fun and suspense out of it. Remember, people want what they can’t have. A man who’s a catch and is difficult to lock down is irresistible to a woman.
This is why it’s important for guys to prioritize their mission in life. When a man is focused on his goals and progression, a woman senses it. She can tell that this is a man of value and it makes him incredibly attractive to her. She can tell that this man is on a journey and she wants to tag along for the ride. A man like this isn’t concerned with relationship titles because he’s too busy focusing on his own life purpose. The irony here is that this man who isn’t concerned with women is the man who has plenty of dating options.
Let the woman be the one to bring up the relationship. Your job as the man is to show her how much of a catch you are by showing her a good time and letting your personality shine. She will be the one to let you know when she is ready to make it official. If a relationship is what she wants, she will be the one asking “so, what are we doing? Where is this going?” When she asks questions like that, then you know you’ve done all of the right things. Until then, you just sit back, relax and show her a good time.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with a man wanting a relationship. It just shouldn’t be his first priority. If you are doing all the right things, the woman you are dating will ask YOU for a relationship. She will be able to tell that you are a rare breed of man and will want you to herself after recognizing your high value. Focus on being a better you, and let her do the choosing.