Month: August 2018

What it Means to be Confident

The most attractive thing to a woman is confidence blah, blah, blah.

Yeah, we know.

But why? What is it about a confident man that makes women melt like a sundae on a sunny day? Why is confidence at the top of every list of attractive traits? How can a man become more confident? Let’s talk about it.

To begin with, let’s stop saying confidence. It’s so trite and overused that the word itself seems to lose its meaning. Instead, let’s go with certainty. A confident man is a certain man. He is certain of himself, certain of where he’s going in life, and he is certain of how he’s going to get there. He is certain of his abilities and competencies; certain that he can overcome challenges.

Now here’s why it’s so attractive to women.

A woman needs a leader. She needs to know that the man she chooses to love is reliable and won’t shrink in the face of adversity. A man who lacks certainty cannot be a leader because he doesn’t even trust himself to make the right decisions. Uncertainty is of a feminine nature and will repel a woman. A feminine woman doesn’t want to lead the way, she wants to relax and be her beautiful, flirty, playful self because she knows her man has got everything under control.

So how does a man gain confidence?

Through experience, a man develops confidence. As he deepens his experience in a dedicated area of his life, he learns from his mistakes and moves forward getting better every time. For example, the stereotypical smooth-talking ladies’ man gets laid because he has put in the work of meeting and seducing women. He’s done it time and time again, acknowledging setbacks and making adjustments along the way. He’s gotten to the point to where he is certain of his ability to pick up women and this certainty is what attracts them in the first place.

Women can’t help but fall for a confident man who believes in himself. This type of man comes so few and far between that she fully appreciates and attaches herself to him because she recognizes a diamond when she sees one. If you want to develop your confidence, develop certainty and trust in yourself. You won’t be right about every single decision you make, and you won’t succeed in every challenge you take but you will develop the confidence to become a more competent, thus attractive man.