Month: March 2019

Why Bad Boys are Attractive

We’ve all seen the movie where the nice guy loses the girl to the bad boy. The former gentleman pushes her away with his sweet and catering words of love and adoration while the latter guy comes in, uncaring and aloof, to sweep her off her feet and ride off on his motorcycle into the sunset.

But why is this?

Why does it seem that women constantly reject the decent guy with good intentions and chase after the mysterious bad boy?

To begin with, the nice guy is not a challenge. He makes his intentions known and pours out his emotions in fantastic romantic displays. He gazes into her eyes and gets lost in her beauty with a smile on his face that says “I can’t believe I’m here with you right now.” He gives her flowers and chocolates after only a date or two and tells her how special she is. After only a few dates (if he even gets that far) he’s already telling her that he loves her and that they should be together forever.

This turns a woman off in most cases because there is no mystery here. No one appreciates the things in life that take no effort to acquire. There is no value in something that is so easy to attain. So when nice guys pour their hearts out to women, this immediately diminishes the man’s value and takes away the challenge for a woman. While the nice guy is putting her on the pedestal and pushing her away by worshipping her, the bad boy keeps his feelings to himself and the woman constantly chases his validation.

The bad boy also has an edge, something the nice guy clearly lacks. A woman who fully embraces her feminine energy is in need of a masculine man who embraces and displays the energy of a dark warrior. The bad boy has the capacity to wreak havoc and destroy anything or anyone who threatens him or the ones closest to him. The nice guy is too fearful or weak to stand courageously in the face of a threat. Deep down, a woman knows that only one of these men can not only provide, but can protect her if a situation calls for it. This display of strength plays a huge role in a woman’s attraction to a man.

The dark energy I described earlier also plays a key role in the bedroom.

Nice guys are the types of guys to pepper their women with kisses, and want to make sweet love to their women. He’s sweet and gentle in the bedroom. Of course this sounds good in old school R&B music and romantic movies, but let’s remain in reality. Most women want to be dominated by their man. Have you ever thought about why women want men who are taller than they are? Women want to feel the power of their man, they want to submit and be ravished by the strong man they choose to be with. The bad boy isn’t making love to his girl, he fucks her to sleep. Sex is a key component in any relationship and deep down, so which type of guy do you think the average woman would want to sleep with?

This post isn’t telling you guys to go buy a leather jacket and start a bar fight. This post is to help guys realize that you have to embrace your dark side with women. It’s not about changing who you are. It’s about owning your masculine power and not putting women on pedestals. This is why bad boys are attractive.

What is Game in Dating?

Game.

It’s what separates the men from the boys. Guys who are good with women have it. Those who aren’t don’t. What is game? Why is it so important? How do you develop game? Today I hope to answer all of these questions and maybe more.

In my own words, game can be defined as the ability to polarize a woman and raise her interest romantically. Game is playful and it is direct. It shows a woman that you are interested in her and it shows you’re not ashamed to show your attraction to her. It’s bold, and to women it’s sexy.

Personally, I haven’t really had to rely on game for most of my life. I’m a decent looking guy and that usually gets my foot in the door. Over time, women get a feel for my personality and my playful sense of humor. This depth of character is what makes me attractive to women. However, since I finished school and moved to the opposite coast of the country, I haven’t had the pleasure of being surrounded by women on a regular basis. Now, in an unfamiliar city, I am faced with the challenge of starting from scratch with zero social proof  (See this article about why dating sucks as an adult). At first, I was surrounded by women I knew through school so all I had to do was let my personality shine over time. Now, I actively have to step out of my comfort zone to meet women. Since there’s rarely a case where I’ll see a woman on a regular basis like I did in school, I now have to make my interactions count in person. This is where game comes in.

I mention here that girls just want to have fun. When it comes to game, your sense of humor is your best friend. If you don’t have one, you better get to work. If you want, I can write about how to improve your sense of humor, just make a request in the comments below and I will put that together for you. Having good game isn’t about telling jokes nonstop. The more important element here is showing your romantic interest and escalating.

If you’re a guy reading this, I am assuming you are trying to attract the most attractive woman you can, as you should. Here’s a thought for you gentlemen: the most attractive women have been with more guys than you have been with women. So that means you need to come correct. They don’t want to deal with a guy who doesn’t know what he’s doing. They don’t want to be responsible for escalating an interaction sexually. Women generally want to be with a strong leader. They want to be with a man who knows what he wants out of life and is ambitious and self assured enough to go for it. A man with good game shows self confidence and no inhibition about his intentions with the woman he is pursuing. You may think this is sleazy or too aggressive, but this is what women want. They want a MAN.

So now we understand that game is the ability to raise a woman’s attraction. We also understand that it’s important because it shows your fun side while simultaneously showing your sexual side. But how do you develop game?

Like with anything else in life, the best way to develop game is to practice. You need to be putting yourself out there so you can hone your skills. In every interaction from now on, you should be thinking to yourself, “how can I make this fun?” Keep high, fun energy when you’re approaching women. Come from a place of self assurance when you make the approach and keep in mind that you are a man of value. This doesn’t only have to be done on tinder dates or when you meet a girl at a bar. In your day to day interactions, you should constantly be seeking to create interesting and engaging conversations with women. Don’t worry about escalating just yet, focus on being fun and exciting. Smile often and speak clearly. Nothing shows self doubt more than a stuttering, shaky voice.

I don’t want to make this article too long, I’ve already surpassed 500 words for the day. If this wasn’t thorough enough for you or if anything was unclear, I encourage you to post your opinions and questions in the comments below.

You can be the richest guy in your city or the most good looking guy around, but if you don’t know how to talk to women and increase their attraction, you’ll be sleeping with a bottle of lotion next to your bed at night. Get out of your comfort zone, approach that cute girl, and show her how fun you are by showing your interest and keeping things light and engaging. This is the power of game.